Love
What is love?
Most of us have a prejudice that love
is usually associated with a romantic relationship. It probably is because that
is how society has approached this topic. In many conservative Indian
households even uttering this dangerous word has many repercussions, but this
isn’t about that. Many of us never really sit down and ponder what this word
means to us. I aspire to be a person who puts creative thoughts into words not
just to entertain people but to feel the satisfaction of happiness when someone
else also identifies with these thoughts or appreciates them. And I come back
to the simple yet nuanced question, what is love?
Love as it is can be seen anywhere and
everywhere. We can see it in a parent waking up earlier than the household to
cook the day’s meals, we can see it when they force us to have that god-awful
milk believing it adds to our immunity, we can see love when fathers wake up
early to drop us to school even though they went to bed late last night, we can
see the love in friendships when they wait for you before going in even when
you are late, we see the love in our daily lives so much that it goes to the
back of our mind, where its existence is somehow forgotten.
Love is a strange language where the
person who speaks it can only best hope the person they talk with understands
it. Those little overlooked gestures speak so much sometimes. The extra ghee on
your food, waking up with a blanket when you went to bed without one, taking
you to that one place you have wanted to go to since forever, always coming to
pick you up from wherever you are no matter how late it is, when your sibling
takes the blame even though it was your fault, giving up that last piece of
chocolate for you - these are some things that we see in our houses, within our
close circle.
It isn’t easy to find love out in the
world where you don’t know anyone, and yet we find ourselves often being
showered with it. When someone lets you eat their favourite food, when they
wait hours for you to turn up, when they search up that one thing you would
absolutely love as a gift, when they spend all their pocket money for you, when
they defend you in front of strangers or even their own people, when they are there
for you when no one else is - this is familiar around our friends but have we
ever thought of animal love? Or love for a baby we see every day in the park?
Or the love of nature? Or sunsets or aesthetically pleasing phenomena?
Love is everywhere and we are all so astray
in this metropolitan globalized world we have lost the meaning of life. What is
life without doing things that we love? What are you working so tediously for
if you don’t stop to enjoy the little moments and cherish them? What have you
done it all for? Every day I see so many, many people waking up and
monotonously getting ready and heading to their institutions only to do the
chores there in a robotic fashion and come back to engage themselves with a
phone till they collapse on the bed with sleep. I see children too tired to go
out and play, parents too tired to properly interact with children, adults so
busy with their work and social life they forget to take care of
themselves.
Love isn’t an emotion that’s only
meant to be selfless. Self-love IS essential in one’s lifetime. Show yourself
some love, give yourself that treat you’ve been putting off for so long, accept
yourself the way you are. You don’t need to qualify other’s expectations about
how you should be if you haven’t done so for yourself first. Animals have
always been a physical representation of love for me. Your dog will excitingly
wait for you even if you haven’t thought about it at all. Humans are social
creatures and we all need love. Yes, we all have our huge egos and pride but
what use is it of when you are using that to push away the basic thing that all
human beings need to live. The basic need to be wanted and to feel
loved
P.S For those of you who are
forthcoming please spread the love around you. It doesn’t cost a thing and it
could mean so much to the person who actually needs it. Some might not say it
out loud but a hug or any sign of affection to the person who’s hurting or
having a bad day makes a huge difference. It’s the little things that always
matter.
